PART1 Words and Expressions

1.truncate

v.  make shorter as if by cutting off

把…截断，缩短，删节

我们可以truncate一张木板、一篇文章、一段假期

e.g.I refused to truncate my speech.

2.manipulate

v.    to make someone think and behave exactly as you want them to, by skilfully deceiving or influencing them

操纵，控制〔某人的思想和行为〕

man有人工，手工的意思，manipulate来自于manipulation，manipulation意为用手或机器搬运安放某物，到了1864年，manipulate指对某人施加精神上的影响。

manipulate sb. into(doing) sth.

e.g. The monarch manipulated his people into obeying his orders.

3.a hill of beans

字面上看是一山的豆子，引申为一文不值，如果你说一些东西does not amount to a hill of beans，还不如一山豆子，意思是无足轻重。

e.g. His words doesn't amount to a hill of beans.

4.square with  与…一致

square 的意思很多，我们熟悉的作名词有正方形，广场的意思，做形容词意为平行的，水平的，做动词意为使…变直［平行于］，那么这个词组就不难理解了，和昨天学的align是同样的道理。

e.g.Your performance doesn't square with your promise.

5.probe

v. to ask questions in order to find things out, especially things that other people do not want you to know  调查；打探，探究

后面可以加into sth.

e.g. I am not interested in probing into your affairs.

6.for the birds

毫无价值的，荒唐至极的，愚蠢可笑的;与中国的对牛弹琴有异曲同工之妙

e.g.This movie is for the birds.

7.interpret

v. to believe that something someone does or something that happens has a particular meaning 把…理解 [解释]为

e.g.I can interpret his absur behavior.

PART 2 Summary

In this chapter, the discussion focuses on habit 5 : seek first to understand and then to be understood which is the principle of empathic communication.

Character and communication are critical to effectiveness.Sincere character is the foundation of the technique talking about next.In order to seek first to be understood, we should learn empathic listening which  gives us accurate data to work with and is the key to making deposits in Emotional Bank Accounts.After listening,we are supposed to diagnose before prescribe, which can be applied in all walks of life.

Then, the author introduced four autobiographical responses embracing evaluating, probing , advising and interpreting and empathic listening involving four developmental stages containing mimicking content, empathic listening, reflecting feeling and the combination of the second and the third.

PART 3 Thoughts

Habit 5讲的是同理心，度娘的定义是    人际交往过程中，能够体会他人的情绪和想法、理解他人的立场和感受，并站在他人的角度思考和处理问题。    之前课上在学过心理咨询师要对咨询者怀有同理心，既不反对，也不支持，设身处地，没想到也可以运用到人际交往中。

贴心的作者也告诉我们使用技巧的同时要真诚，想让别人信任自己的前提是自己要言行一致，敞开内心，在这个过程中自身难免会受到影响，这就要求我们要做好habit1、2、3，有一个强大的内心。读的时候不禁想到了流行的“套路”一词，为了达到目的使用些小技巧小套路无可厚非，但内心必须是真挚真诚的，坦坦荡荡为他人着想。套路多了难免让人厌烦，还是少一些套路，多一些真诚吧。

作者举了医生还没有仔细诊断就乱下处方的例子，这让我明白解决问题首先要弄清楚问题出再哪里，对症下药，否则那就是庸医，看来诊治二字一个也不可偏废。